The women, who are all clad in lingerie, are young and incredibly attractive. The men are wearing tuxedos and sporting Scntm’s “secret society” lapel pinse. It’s a swanky house party, with people chatting at the bar with cocktails or in front of the fireplace. He tells me he’s the former manager of the Beverly Hills Hotel Polo Lounge, but within the confines of Snctm, he’s known simply as “Mr. When we arrive at midnight, my date and I are greeted at the front door by two topless girls in black ballet tutus and Zorro masks. But the night I attend, it's held at the “Snctm Mansion”, a $4.5 million estate located in Holmby Hills, near the Playboy Mansion. To preserve members’ privacy, Snctm parties are held at different locations. "The grand object of Snctm is the eroticism of the human race."
"The grand object of Snctm is the eroticism of the human race,” he tells me. When his marriage failed, he turned his attention to Snctm, which has since been profiled by Goop, the website founded by Gwyneth Paltrow (who is also rumored to be a Snctm member). “I was going through a similar thing myself, struggling with being monogamous with my wife,” he told me.
A former party promoter and real estate agent, Lawner says he was inspired to launch Snctm after watching the aforementioned Kubrick film. So I got in touch with Snctm's founder, Damon Lawner, 47. I ran into some friends who had attended previous Snctm gatherings, and they referred to it as “the most glamorous sex party we ever went to." "You have to go," they told me. I first heard about Snctm while at Soho House in West Hollywood, a members-only club for Hollywood's creative crowd. It’s a straight guy’s total fantasy, like Cirque du Soleil meets a Victoria’s Secret fashion show. Everyone is fit and attractive, and everyone is wearing a mask.
Per the dress code, the men are wearing tuxedos, and the women, who outnumber the men by 6 to 1, are wearing La Perla bras, garter belts, and high heels. I’m in the inner sanctum of a secret Snctm sex party, and it’s a spectacular scene.